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Men Life has no Value in India ?

If a women commit suicide in india, Media make big issue out of nothing, Her parents will tell by default its a Dowry Death; Police will take action and arrest all members of Husband.

But in reality, more men than women commit suicide because of stress of marital life, and no one reports.

Here is news of Women Suicide and the TRUTH, why more men commite sucide.

New Delhi, Nov 17 2008 A married woman commited suicide at her homes in the national capital Sunday, the police said.

According to the police, Saroj, 25, committed suicide around 11 a.m. by hanging herself from a ceiling fan when she was alone at her house in NDMC colony near Mandir Marg area of New Delhi.

Her parents alleged that she committed suicide due to dowry harassment by her in-laws.

However, her husband Rajesh, a sweeper with the New Delhi Municipal Corporation, told the police that Saroj was in depression as she had no child even after four years of marriage. She was reportedly under medication for not being able to conceive.

And the TRUTH is

Indian Men are leading a troubled and stressed out life and as per National Crime Records Bureau, almost 75000 men committed suicide in 2006. This is almost 80% more than women who have committed suicide (app. 42000).

The age-wise break up is as follows:

We can see that almost 60% of suicide by men is by those falling under the age bracket of 30-59 years. These are the prime years for any man, when he gets married, sets up his family. He slogs all these years to give a comfortable life to his wife, parents, best education to his children and an assurance of comfortable life to his family in old age. This is an enormous burden and herculean responsibility, in fact a job of a super human, but, we all now, he never complains about it. Delivering a super human responsibility by a normal human, does take a toll and puts enormous pressure on him, which he many find it difficult to cope up with, gets frustrated and hopeless to take drastic step as that of committing suicide. We can very well see that almost 136% more men commit suicide than women in this age bracket of 30-59 years. This is more than double and simply startling.

Just to have a look at the suicide rates by marital status:

We see that 86% more married men have committed suicide in 2006 compared to married women in the same year. In fact, for never married status also, more men have committed suicide (77% more) than women. As already status above, married men are under more stress due to super human responsibility they carry leading to more suicide committed by them. Even, unmarried men are always under pressure to fulfil their role i. e of taking care of their parents.

There are various reasons why men commit suicide. Some of them are Illness, Family Problems, Bankruptcy or Sudden Change in Economic Status, unemployment, poverty, love affairs etc. It is important to note that the chief reason that drives men towards suicide is Family Problem (Refer Annexure 1: NCRB data for 2006). Almost, 25% of suicides by men (18672) was due to family problems in 2006.

Age-wise break up is as follows:

More than 50% more men committed suicide due to family problems in 2006. In fact, more than 60% of the suicides were by the men falling under the age group of 30-59 years. As it is also clear, more than double the men committed suicide than women in this age bracket due to family problems. This throws up a very important question:

WHO IS MORE OPPRESSED IN A MARITAL RELATIONSHIP? A MAN OR A WOMAN?

We, Save Family Foundation (a registered NGO), conducted a study on Domestic Violence against Men along with MyNation Foundation (A registered NGO). This was an online survey, where the respondents were Indian Husbands from all economic and social strata though most of them belonged to middle class and upper middle class. The result of the study though not unexpected but was startling as more than 98% of respondents had suffered domestic violence more than once in their life.

(Refer Annexure 2 for Full Study Report on Domestic Violence against Men).

Our study simply confirms to the NCRB report on suicides of men due to family problems. We find that men in the age group 30-59 years, not only shoulder super human responsibilities but are also invariably subjected to domestic violence in the form of physical abuse, emotional abuse, economic abuse and sexual abuse. No wonder, they are killing themselves like nine pins.

Unsung Super Hero and Unnoticed Martyr

The Unsung Super Hero, the Indian Man:

· Puts women and children first
· Protects and Provides
· Promotes women’s empowerment at the expense of his own rights

The Unnoticed Martyr, the Indian Man:

· Performs some of the most risky and challenging jobs in the society
· Is arrested without cause or reason under much abused IPC Section 498A.
· Gives up his right to residence to his unscrupulous wife under PWDVA (Protection of Women against Domestic Violence Act) of 2005.
· Gives up his job, so that women of the country can become independent (As per Labour and Employment Ministry, during the years 2001-05, men employed in the public and private sectors lost 14,00,000 jobs, while women gained 1,00,000 jobs during the same period)

For all the good work the men have done viz. carrying family and societal responsibility on their shoulders, the Indian Government has shown apathetic and ungrateful attitude towards them. In fact, they have treated Indian Men as someone who can be disposed off. To make life even more difficult, they passed IPC 498A and PWDVA (Protection of Women against Domestic Violence Act) of 2005. These two laws are like a final nail on their coffin, whatever strength that is left after shouldering responsibilities and withstanding nagging wife, is taken away by these laws.

It is now an established fact that IPC 498A is the most misused section of Indian Penal Code, being abused by unscrupulous women to extort money, harass husband and his family members, extract revenge, settle personal scores. We know that, the purpose of the law is to impart justice to the aggrieved, at the same time to ensure that there is no harassment to the innocent, if the allegations are false and malafide. This is the reason why, as per the basic premise of law. an accused is presumed “Innocent until proven guilty“. But, IPC 498A, being non-bailable, cognizable and non- compoundable section, clubbed with section 113B of Indian Evidence Act, departs from this philosophy and introduces the presumption of guilt. This has given a draconian shape to the law that is being used as a weapon of extortion by corrupt wives. Supreme Court of India has made similar observations on July 19, 2005 in “Sushil Sharma Vs Union of India and Ors“, Writ Petition (Civil) 141 of 2005, and termed the misuse as unleashing of “Legal Terrorism“.

Even after numerous plea, by Save Family Foundation and other organisations fighting against the misuse, to make the section bailable and non-cognizable, remove the word relative from the definition of IPC 498A, the Indian Government has not taken any positive step to curb the menace.

Similarly, PWDVA of 2005 came into force on October 26, 2006 and within 2 months of it enactment the Honourable Supreme Court of India in “Batra Vs Batra” case [Appeal (Civil) 5837 of 2006 observed that it is a clumsily drafted law.

It may be noted that domestic violence is not a gender specific phenomena, but both men and women suffer from spousal violence. Indian Government has never paid any attention to the violence faced by Men, as if Men are born to suffer. The PWDVA Act of 2005, that should have been gender neutral, has given sweeping powers to wife to misuse to meet her oblique agendas.

Because of these facts

· High rates of suicide by Indian Men
· Misuse of IPC 498A
· Misuse of PWDVA of 2005.

It clearly shows that indian men Life has no value.

Even 82% of the tax revenue is contributed by men, none of their money is utilized for their welfare, in fact, their money is being used to create provisions to wreck havoc on them.

There is a pertinent and urgent need to provide for necessary provisions for men, where they can seek redressal for themselves.

Government should work to Empower FAMILY not women.

Drafted by : Swar00p - SFF - Delhi

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